I am a successful business woman, 38 years old and still single. I have yet to meet Mr. Right but I believe my time is running out to have a baby the old-fashioned way. What are my options? Ready for Motherhood, Washington, DC
Dear Ready for Motherhood:
There are a lot of options for you at this time. Just because you don’t have that special someone in your life, a lot of women today are going ahead with motherhood. You can go to a sperm bank and use a donor or ask a close friend to donate.
Not everyone gets pregnant the old-fashioned way anymore. Gay and lesbian couples, couples suffering from infertility and surrogate mothers are a few examples of people who often become pregnant without having intercourse.
First you need to locate a source of sperm. Contact a sperm bank for information about purchasing donor sperm. Or contact a close family friend and ask him to donate.
Because of this, it can cost upwards of $300 per sample. Getting sperm from a friend is free, but your disease risk is higher unless you both submit to testing and genetic counseling.
Next monitor your fertility to determine when you’re fertile. Use a fertility monitor or ovulation predictor kit from your drug store to detect when you are ovulating. Plan to inseminate on the day the kit tells you – you are ovulating and the day after if possible.
Defrost your sperm according to the sperm bank’s instructions or ask your donor to produce your sample into a specimen cup immediately before you plan to inseminate.
You need to act now because at 40 years of age, there are many risk factors of mothers who have babies. The desire to nurture and to share life as a family is a strong universal need that is felt by a large number of people and one that is not exclusive to married people or couples.