Monday, December 26, 2016

Need Computer Skills

Dec. 26, 2016

Dear Cathy:

I am a senior level professional who has been out of work for approximately one year. Although I have been diligently seeking employment for this period of time, I am still unemployed and becoming more dismayed by the day. I need some skill sets - my huge one is computer skills. Do you have any suggestions or guidance? Anything will be welcome. Need Computer Skills, Alabama

Dear Need Computer Skills:
Everyone today need at least a certain amount of computer skills if they expect to make it in this world. Even though my background is not in computers, I have learned what I needed to know about computers either online, in private computer sessions or in books. has every book in America on there so if you learn best by reading books, I advise you to go in search of what you need there. There are also many people, especially today with social media, willing to teach these skills online, at night school, in your home or in their home.

To seek these individuals out just ask others for referrals. Website designers and graphic artists seems to know who these individuals are with computer skills. Also check out Chambers of Commerce and business groups including the Small Business Association ( in your city. Also many churches have computer labs and are teaching these skills in their churches.

Thursday, December 22, 2016

Boyfriend Refuse to Allow Mate To Bring Belongings Into Home

Dec. 22, 2016

Dear Cathy:

After retiring I downsized before moving across the country to be with my new mate, who is also retired, a man I had known for several years. So it’s not like I have a lot of stuff to begin with because of the downsizing, however, the stuff that I do have, is very personal to me and I would like to have it around me to keep inspiring me as I age. 

But my new mate want me to get a storage unit for my stuff. He has his stuff everywhere in the house and even have another place, a building where he goes everyday, where he can store his things and provide me with more space in his home. So what should I do? New Mate, Connecticut

Dear New Mate:

Your belongings are a part of you and like you said, you had already downsized, probably enough before you moved so he should understand that.

When many young couples get together, they have to decide together what they will keep and what they will get rid of and usually the woman, will have the final say, since she will usually become the homemaker or remember the phrase “Happy Wife, Happy Life!” 

However, when older couples get together, many times one or both of them will be too set in their ways, which means they want everything their way, so obviously, he is having problems with your stuff.

Sometimes it's important for couples to invest in a storage unit together, if they don't have space in their home, but if the home does have space for your things and he just don't want to make changes, then he is just being downright selfish or controlling.

If he has set his house up a certain way and don’t want you to come in and change it, it sounds like he might have a little OCD, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD).

Common symptoms include having things symmetrical or in a perfect order. So there is a good chance, you won’t make it as a couple because even if you put all your things in storage, he will probably come up with something else that he can’t tolerate.

This is why women should never move in with men or even men with women, they should get a new place together. People like this will probably have a hard time changing. He will always think only his things can occupy his space and will never give you the space that you need as a woman.

So take your things, your belongings and yourself and keep moving. A relationship like this is not worth investing in.

Thursday, December 15, 2016

I Have Breast Cancer So Should I Get A 2nd and 3rd Opinion?

Dec. 15, 2016

Dear Cathy:

I just found out I have breast cancer so should I get a 2nd and 3rd opinion? I really like my doctor, however, I have heard you still need to get a 2nd and 3rd opinion, especially when you are diagnosed with any type of cancer.

Repeatedly, cancer like every major disease, is misdiagnosed, therefore, it is recommended to obtain a “second” and even “third” opinion from a “board-certified” oncologist, a cancer specialist.

This is a critically important step that is not to be overlooked. If at all possible, the second or even third opinion should be completed prior to starting any treatment program.

The second and third opinion should come from an independent oncologist, who is not in a working partnership, formal or informal, with the doctor who made the initial diagnosis.

Second and third opinions’ consultations are that important that many people travel to major cancer centers to obtain them. Second and third opinions are standard procedures, which will not alienate your doctor.

Ask the doctor or staff for a complete transcript of your medical records. Then take the records with you or have them sent ahead to the second or third opinion doctors.

The cost should be reimbursed by all insurance programs. Even if you are not covered, get a second or even a third opinion, anyway.

One of the best places to get second or third opinions or get more questions answered about cancer is at the National Cancer Institute’s Center Information Service (CIS), Phone: (800) 4CANCER 422-6237, website: or American Cancer Society (ACS), Phone: (800) 227-2345, website:

To learn more about cancer and especially to heal yourself naturally, read my book “Cancer Cures: Heal Your Body and Save Your Life” available as an e-book and paperback at

Wednesday, December 14, 2016

Should Women Choose a Breast Mastectomy Over Holistic and Natural Healing?

Dec. 14, 2016

Dear Cathy: 

My cousin choose to have a mastectomy after she and her sister both came down with cancer. However, her sister chose to go the natural route with holistic healing. Could genetics have played a role in both of them coming down with breast cancer? Breast Cancer, Mississippi

Dear Breast Cancer:

I believe eating toxic diets, living in toxic environments and having a weak immune system are the big reasons women come down with breast cancer in the first place. 

So cleaning up your diet and environment, which will boost your immune system, should be first options versus a mastectomy, especially if you are in an early stage of the disease.

Having any type of surgery should never be a first choice. There could be complications from any type of surgery, especially when you are put to sleep.

Mastectomy is surgery to remove all breast tissue from a breast as a way to treat or prevent breast cancer. For those with early-stage breast cancer, mastectomy may be one treatment option.

Breast-conserving surgery (lumpectomy), in which only the tumor is removed from the breast, may be another option but how great are genetic factors.

Genetic factors by themselves probably account for only a very small fraction of cancers. Less than 10% of cancer in humans is attributable to genetics.

Genetic factors do have an important influence on an individual’s chance of developing cancer when combined with outside factors (your diet, your environment, and your mmune system).

So if someone in a family ate the same toxic diet, lived in the same toxic environment and also had a weak immune system, then their chances of coming down with cancer would be greater.
These factors are either voluntary (such as cigarette smoking, diet, and sexual behavior) or involuntary (such as breathing polluted air or drinking contaminated water).

Even those with genetic markers indicating a high probability for developing cancer, often do not get the disease. 

If cancer is prevalent in someone’s immediate family or if gene testing indicates the likelihood of cancer occurring, then for them preventing cancer should be paramount. 

Even so, preventing cancer needs to be a goal for everyone so it's important to eat a good, natural and holistic diet, use only natural cleaning body and cleaning products, which will boost your immune system.

To learn more about cancer and especially to heal yourself naturally, read my book “Cancer Cures: Heal Your Body and Save Your Life” available as an e-book and paperback at

Tuesday, December 13, 2016

Victim of Workplace Discrimination

Dec. 13, 2016

Dear Cathy:

Hi my name is Angela. I feel like I am a victim of discrimination at the workplace. I'm very afraid to lose my job. I filed a FMLA leave for a condition I have been having along with my periods and my boss told me to get a hysterectomy. I made a complaint with the labor board. I'm so afraid because I have so many people against me. She is retaliating really bad. Workplace Discrimination, Nevada

Dear Workplace Discrimination:

Filing any type of workplace complaint has now put you on their radar, which means they will watch everything that you do from now on. If you have to file another complaint then do so.

Carry a small notebook with you at work and document everything that they do to you. So if they do fire you down the line, your case is well-documented.

Now that they are watching you, you have to make sure you dot your i’s and cross your t’s. Come to work on time and be exactly where you are suppose to be at all times.

You would think a woman would be more sympathetic to your female issues, but it’s unfortunate that many women bosses in the workplace are sometimes worse than men.

Filing a Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA) leave was your right as an employee and a good first start but you need to understand when you file these types of leave, your job will not be supportive of you.

All they want is productive employees and they feel you can’t be productive as long as you have health issues, even when these conditions are probably caused by working in “hostile work environments” – which they caused.

If you don’t take control of your health issue, it’s a condition that will flare up again down the line and you might end up having a hysterectomy, which you definitely don't want to do. 

Two of the main causes of these types of womb issues are stress and your diet. If you are having a hard time healthwise with a condition with your period, then you should definitely look at your diet.

Processed foods are toxic foods that causes womb issues to flourish, so think about changing your diet to a more natural and holistic diet. 

Even read the book “Eat Right 4 Your Blood Type” and start eating foods specifically for your blood type. The goal is to make sure you eat a good diet, engage in a regular exercise program, and get plenty of sleep.

Also read my health book “How To Take Control of Your Own Life: A Self-Help Guide to Becoming Healthier Over the Next 30 Days” at, which is 12 chapters and 12 steps. As many of those steps that you can implement in your life over the next few days, weeks and months, the better you should start to feel.

If you would like to stay in the workplace in the future then you need to learn your rights by reading my 3 workplace books “The Workplace Survival Guide: How To Fight Discrimination, Whistleblowing and the Workers’ Compensation System” and “Discrimination 101: The Complete Guide To Recognizing and Surviving Discrimination in the Workplace (Volume 1) and (Volume 2)." These 3 books are available as e-books only at

Thursday, December 8, 2016

New Business Website for the New Year

Dec. 8, 2016

Dear Cathy:

I would like to get a business website for my new business for the New Year. What do I need to look out for when choosing to work with a company? New Website, Colorado

Dear New Website:

Try to get referrals from business groups when you are seeking to work with a company. Ask the business owners, if they were satisfied with the work of these website builders.

As a business owner, even though it’s a good idea to spend 90% of your time honing your own skills, it’s also important to learn how websites are built so you won’t be left totally in the dark when these businesses starts giving you a set of fees to build your website.

So it’s always a good idea to browse how to build website books at “The Complete Idiot’s Guide” and “” books. Compare fees and see what each company offers. 

Conduct a, and “Better Business Bureau” search on the company to make sure they don’t have complaints.

Also the most important thing beside the fees is what dates and times they will have the work finished. If you can -- try to sign some type of contract with this company because many times when you exchange money with these businesses, they might disappear on you.

So it’s important to learn when the work will be completed. And by all means, don’t pay all these fees upfront without seeing any of the finished work.

Most legitimate companies will charge you 1/3 or one half up front, until they show you some of the finished work and many will not just forward you sample websites upfront but if they don’t have anything to hide, they might even send you a list of potential client’s websites they built so reach out to these business owners on the pros and cons of working with that company.

For more questions on business websites read my book “How To Take Control of Your Own Life: A Self-Help Guide To Starting Your Own Business” (Series 2) at

Friday, December 2, 2016

Husband Can’t Stand the Smell of Sardines

Dec. 2, 2016

Dear Cathy:

I got married to a beautiful man 6 months ago, however, he can’t stand the smell of sardines, which I eat because it’s healthy for me. Eating this one food is causing tension in our relationship so what do I need to do? I really would like to keep eating this food. Eating Healthy, Virginia

Dear Eating Healthy:

Sardines are one of the healthier foods that you can eat. You should not have to give up anything that you ate before you were married. 

Marriage is about compromise, however, giving up a healthy food to please a spouse is never a good idea. Many couples get married and they become unhealthy because they start eating unhealthy food. 

I congratulate you on trying to stay healthy, despite the fact that it displeases your spouse. So again, stand up to your spouse and let him know how you feel. Also you can try to eat the food when your spouse is nowhere around, if that will help the situation.