Thursday, June 16, 2016

Settling for Best Friend

June 16, 2016

Dear Cathy:

I met my best friend in college and at the age of 35 we are getting married. Somehow I feel I am settling with him because I haven’t met the real Mr. Right. Sexually we are okay but will I continue to wonder if I made a mistake? What is your advice about our marriage? Settling in Connecticut

Dear Settling:

It’s possible you are settling with your friend. Many women do settle with men in their lives, especially their best friends, simply because they haven’t met that man who is full of that fiery passion, which they are really seeking. And many times they settle because their child-bearing years are coming to an end.

On the other hand, sometimes these are the best men for you. Some women marry men they have known since elementary school and their relationships turns out okay.

You just have to ask yourself – are you settling or should you wait for Mr. Right? Remember, you have to work on and build good relationships, so the fact that you know everything about this man because you have been best friends for a while, can be a major plus.

However, instead of hitting the marriage button, I would at least stay engaged for a while longer, especially if you are still having doubts. Get busy and put all that sexual energy into a hobby, business or travel.

Broaden your horizon and widen your circle of acquaintances by joining groups and meet new people. This will open you up to meet others or you will eventually realize that you already have that special someone that you want to spend your life with.

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