I have a friend who is a female and she is abusive to her husband. She uses profanity and talks down at him in front of others. I hate to see what happens when we are not around. Is there help for abusive men? Abusive Husband, Georgia
Dear Abusive Husband:
According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline women can be just as abusive as men, however, the majority of the time, it’s men who are abusing women.
According to the CDC, one in seven men age 18 and over has been the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in his lifetime. One in 10 men has experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner.
In past years, 13% of documented contacts to the Hotline identified themselves as male victims. Although they make up a smaller percentage of callers to the Hotline, there are likely many more men who do not report or seek help for their abuse, for a variety of reasons.
In our culture, men are socialized not to express their feelings or see themselves as victims. Young boys are taught not to express their emotions, to suck it up and be a man. This can be extremely detrimental to boys as they age, especially if they find themselves in an abusive relationship.
Men may feel discouraged to talk about what’s going on in their personal lives, or they feel like no one will believe them. They may not even realize that they are being abused or they might assume they should just deal with the abuse on their own.
So therefore, many mothers and fathers need to explain to their sons, just like they do to their daughters, not to take any type of abuse, whether it be verbal or physical abuse from their partners. And if they do they need to seek help and get out of the relationship.
Women are in charge of buying groceries which could be a major reason for domestic violence today. Your food, especially today with the GMO processed foods, causes anger.