Thursday, July 28, 2016

Thinking of Leaving Husband Because of Dementia

July 28, 2016

Dear Cathy:

I got with my husband who is in his 60s about 10 years ago. I have fallen out of love with him and is torn between leaving him or staying. He is doing more than losing keys around the house so is there anything I can do natural for his memory? 

I do believe he has early dementia. He has 3 grown children that live in our neighborhood so I am sure one of them will come forward and take care of him. Dementia, New York

Dear Dementia:

Dementia is a form of Alzheimers and it is a big issue today, especially because of heavy metals in the air that you breathe, the water that you drink and the foods that you are eating. 

Now that your spouse is showing signs of dementia, the time to do something about it might have already passed. However, he should stay busy reading books or doing puzzles - anything to keep his mind occupied. 

Meanwhile, do what you can to clean up your inside environment. Most insides of homes are 2 to 3 times more toxic than the outside so it’s important to clean up the air quality in your home. 

This means stop buying toxic cleaning and body products. Only use coconut butter and olive oil on your skin and only clean with white distilled vinegar and aluminum free baking soda.

I would also suggest detoxification to remove heavy metals from the body but at his age, he probably can’t handle it so the both of you can eat foods that detoxifies your liver and kidneys. You can go to and put in the words, foods that detoxifies your liver and foods that detoxifies your kidneys, but I would only eat these foods if they are located in the “Eat 4 Your Blood Type” book for your particular blood type.

Make sure he is tested for dementia because there could be something else going on with his brain. Even if he is diagnosed with dementia, get at least 3 different opinions because people are misdiagnosed with illnesses all the time, especially today. 

Talk to a geriatrician (M.D.) A geriatrician is a medical doctor who is specially trained to meet the unique healthcare needs of older adults. Illnesses, diseases and medications may affect older people differently than younger adults and older patients often have multiple health problems and take multiple medications. 

Find out what kind of care your husband needs now and will need in the future before making any decision to leave or stay. You should also learn as much as you can about what services for seniors exist in your community. 

He may eventually need an assisted living facility, but in the meantime, a home caregiver may be able to help him with personal grooming and give you some time to yourself. Ask his children or other family members, if they can pitch in and help and give you a break.

There is support out there for you and your husband so reach out to the Alzheimer's Association at or call 800-272-3900 for information and resources.

No one signs on to become a caregiver in a relationship but you need to ask yourself what would happen if the roles were switch. Would he run out on you? As couples age they will fall out of love with each other but they will still remain good enough friends to take care of each other.

Only you can decide if you will stay or go but no one should feel like someone is a burden to them so again weigh all your options before making any type of decision.

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