Wednesday, August 24, 2016

My Mate Doesn’t Enjoy Kissing and Hugging

Aug. 24, 2016

Dear Cathy:

I am 43 and recently got into a serious relationship and moved in with my mate who is 45. However, six months after moving in, my mate stopped kissing and hugging me. 

He said those types of things have really never turned him on. He has been married twice so what can I do to make him realize how important kissing and hugging is to me. Lack of Kissing and Hugging, Kansas

Dear Lack of Kissing and Hugging:

There are lots of reasons that your mate probably doesn’t like intimacy in your relationship. Maybe he came from a family that did not show affection so this might be the only thing he knows. This could also be the reason he has been divorced twice because many women do enjoy intimacy such as kissing and hugging in a relationship.

If he did these things satisfactory for 6 months and just stopped, then something else might be at play. A lot of time when relationships gets old or when men thinks that they no longer have to satisfy a woman, they will stop showing affections for them by stopping kissing, hugging and even having sex.

However, you should have a good talk with him and let him know how you feel and how you want things to go back the way they were when you first moved in. In order for most couples to have a good relationship, they just need to treat each other the way they did when they first met.

It worked good enough for the both of you to come together, so unless he dedicates himself to getting back to where the relationship started, you will have to settle for a lack of intimacy in your relationship or choose to work with a couple’s counselor to get back on track.

If he is not willing to do these things, then maybe your relationship is not for you. Only you can decide how important intimacy is in a relationship.

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