Monday, February 27, 2017

Boyfriend Hangs Out At Clubs Too Much

Feb. 27, 2017

Dear Cathy:

I met my boyfriend at the club so we eventually moved in together. After a couple of years, I no longer enjoy the club scene but he still does. My goal is to start a business. What can I do to keep him from wanting to go out to the club 4 or 5 days a week. Club Scene, Oklahoma

Dear Club Scene:

If either person in a relationship is spending 4 or 5 days a week at the club, unless it is business-related, then there is a good chance not too much will be happening in their life.

There are certain businesses that you can start out of a club, but if he is going to the club just to be going to the club, then that might play havoc on any relationship.

You wanting to start a business shows that you want more out of life, so therefore, you will need to decide the best way to proceed forward. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Sometimes when men are not motivated about life, it could be a lot of things happening.

It could be the food that he is eating or the people that he is hanging out with. If it’s the food, that’s something you can change by opting to buy and prepare healthier foods, but if he is associating himself with other people that also like hanging out at the club, then you might have a hard time getting him to stop his destructive habits.

Try to see a family counselor to discuss the different directions you both are headed in. If he is not opened to doing this, then you might have to investigate other options.

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