My Children Refuses To Have Children

Nov. 4, 2016 Dear Cathy: I raised two children, a daughter and son, by myself and thought they still had great lives but both today said they don’t want to have children of their own. They both have found life partners and they feel the same. What can I do to fill this hole in my heart about wanting to be a grandmother? Longing to be a Grandmother, New York Dear Longing to Be Grandmother: First of all my heart goes out to you. However, you can’t really blame anyone today for not wanting to have children, especially with the world in such an uproar, many simply prefer not to bring children into this world. Many others are too busy with their careers and just don’t have time for children. This is your life and what you need to do now is accept that you will not be a grandmother and move on. There are plenty of opportunities for you today to get out there and volunteer and be around kids -- if that is what you truly desire. These kids do not necessarily have to be related to you. One of the best opportunities to work with children and teens is to volunteer for “Big Brothers Big Sisters of America." Another program you might enjoy is Foster Grandparents, which is sponsored by the Corporation for National and Community Service. Hospitals today are packed with sick children so volunteer to read to these children. Also check out CASA for Children, where you can become a court-appointed advocate for abused and neglected children and teens, which may provide the emotional satisfaction that you need. Good luck with all your endeavors and in process of trying to work and be around children, don’t ignore your own needs for companionship. Start a hobby, a business or travel. You can meet others at www.meetup.com in your area, with similar interests.