My husband and I can’t seem to get on the same page lately. We fuss about everything. He won’t sit down and listen to my concerns. Do you have any suggestions? Concerned About Marriage, Georgia
Dear Concerned About Marriage:
Relationships are extremely hard especially today so when you’re having a difficult discussion, put your angry emotions aside. You can’t be logical when you’re mad. Both of you might need to put talking off until you both calm down.
Before making a decision about how to handle a problem, make sure you consider all of your options. This requires some brainstorming and working together to create a positive solution. If done correctly, this process alone can heal the difficulty.
It’s not about who’s right or wrong. If you try to blame your partner or make him wrong, you won’t find an answer. You both have to take responsibility for getting your relationship back on a positive track.
Make sure that you are humble and don’t rub your partner’s nose in a misstep. If you gently share your feelings, whichever of you is the offending party will learn from his or her mistake much easier.
But don’t settle for less than a complete acceptance of each other’s point of view. If you walk away disappointed, you have not resolved your issue. For a relationship to work, you both have to feel like you have your partner’s support.