I am dating a lady that I really enjoy being with, however, when I visit her at her home, I can see that she is a slob. She is a single mother with two kids, ages 5 and 6, and the father is not in the picture. I don’t have any children of my own so I really like her children. How can I speak with her about cleaning up more if we are going to keep our relationship moving ahead? Girlfriend a Slob, Alabama
I don’t know if you are a neat-freak or what but many neat freaks are often described as having OCD so before looking in her backyard, you might need to look in yours.
Things are not always as they seem with single mothers. Not only do they need to multi-task but most put their kids needs before their own. So you need to make sure that you can make her feel special and even bare some of her burden – if you really want this to work.