Tuesday, March 29, 2016

Mate Too Tired for Intimate Conversations

Mar. 29, 2016

Dear Cathy:

I got with my mate much later on in my life. I am 50 and my mate is 70 years old. All he wants to do is fall asleep in front of the TV every night while looking at CNN and other news networks and I want to engage in stimulating and intimate conversations and closeness. I am thinking about leaving him for greener pastures. What do you think? Greener Pastures, Idaho

Dear Greener Pastures:

Before you head for the door, your mate needs to go to the doctor to see if there is anything that might be zapping his energy. Many men are vibrant, even in their 70s, 80s or 90s so he could have some type of health issue that he needs to address.

Then you need to look at his diet. However, trying to change the diet of an older person, especially a man, is like pulling teeth and no one really wants to do that. 

Men at this age also are too set in their ways. They are not going to do something else or live another way just because someone want them too so many men have chosen to stay single because of this.

I suggest you have a serious talk with him about how you feel and you might need to figure out that it is as good as it is going to get. The age difference might not have been an issue at first but you need to understand because of his age, there are certain things you will have to give up.

Many men go into their 60s, 70s, 80s and even 90s with a high sex drive but once men lose their libido and are not good conversationalist, then it might be time to move on because it will be as good as you are going to get.

You have a right to want more, especially at your age. Sure when the relationship started, the both of you were all bright-eyed and bushy-tailed but again because of his age, that have all ended. Now like most women your age, you need to decide if this is what you bargained for or are you seriously ready to move on.

Everyone would like to have a life companion, someone exciting with whom to walk into the sunset for their remaining years but if it doesn’t happen, it doesn’t mean you are not living a worthy life. Only you can decide if you are ready to move on. 

No comments:

Post a Comment