Monday, August 10, 2015
Mate Won’t Attend Family Gatherings
Aug. 10, 2015
I live 4 hours from my family. My mother and father have passed away. My 8 siblings and I have never been really, really close but as I age they have become more important to me. However, my mate said my family is dysfunctional and he rather not be around them. I want him to attend family gatherings so it hurts me when I have to attend the events alone. Is my mate being fair to me? Unfair Mate, Iowa
Dear Unfair Mate:
If your mate doesn’t want to attend all or none of your family functions -- then I don’t see a problem with that. Your mate is your immediate family so this should be a decision that you make together.
The good thing is your family doesn't live right around the corner from you where you have to see them all the time -- and make excuses for your mate. Even though I think it’s important that families come together and be there for each other, I still would not hold it against your mate for not attending your family functions.
Remember this is your family not his -- and many families, probably including his -- might be dysfunctional today. The goal is to just be there for each other.