Dear Compulsive Eating:
A person with symptoms of compulsive overeating has what can be characterized as an addiction to food. They use food and eating as a way to hide from or manage their emotions or to cope with daily stresses and problems in their lives.
Food is gratifying for them. Instead of falling more in love with themselves as a couple, they have fallen in love with food. This could include binge eating or eating uncontrollably even when not physically hungry; depression and mood swings; withdrawal from activities because of embarrassment about weight.
I see this all the time with many couples who get married or move in together. Unless one person finally have enough and put their foot down, then there is no way that lifestyle changes can take place and that is what needs to happen – lifestyle changes.
First of all, you and your wife need to get a complete physical from head to toe to make sure both of you are fit enough to exercise.
If after getting a complete physical and committing to a workout program, which should also consist of education around food, like you said -- if your wife doesn’t get aboard with you, then all your efforts might be sabotaged during and after you finish your workout program.